“Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.” ― Lao Tzu
The genesis of any relationship, especially commiting to a partner, getting married, starting a family or raising children, stems from the premise that one has the TIME to spend with them.It has to be said, whether we like it or not, –when our families, love ones and children are concerned, lost time is precious time lost.
It can never be recovered nor replaced. Once lost, it can never be found. So if you think, you do not have the time to be with your family, find time to do so.
Imagine those who live far from their families, like those who work abroad. They surely would want to trade places with you.
A child’s graduation ceremony, a wedding-anniversary dinner or the grandparents’ fiftieth wedding anniversary celebration can never be brought back once missed, can they?
Whatever the reasons, whether it was a trivial one or an emergency that made us miss those, we just have to attend other occasions -to make new memories.
With our families, ” making up for lost time”is as good as, ” starting all over again.” Spending time with our family does not demand a 24/7 watch.
Someone once said it logically, ” Calculate and divide your hours:
Hours for work? For eating? For sleeping? For t.v? For going out? For friends? For phone calls? For text? For ipads? For tweets? For posting pictures on FB? Or for #throwback thursdays on Instagram?
You will be surprised on how little, you spend time with your love ones as compared with other things you spend time onaad (which are not even related to your work or source of income). ” A few hours would not hurt. We could insert them in our very busy schedule.
It does not even need to be grand. It may not even be as extraordinary as a trip to Disney World or the customary visit to the mall. But it could be those times when our child discovered a new word and he had us to share it with.
It will be as simple as that day, when our kid just officially proclaimed that he will be ” The greatest swimmer in the world,” someday, right after having a really FUN time swimming at the beach, with us.
Or maybe that time when his pet goldfish accidentally went down the drain, we were there to tell him, that things like those shall pass.
It can be even be those few precious moments we share with our husbands or our wives, with no distractions or hi-tech gadgets beside any of us.( and just old-fashioned romance )
It is that phone call from an elder brother or younger sister catching up with us.It may just be those cups of espresso shared with our moms and dads in a nearby café. It may just be all that few snuggles and bear hugs with our families.It may all be those we have overlooked while they start slipping away from us.
Time is essential especially when it involves our family and children.
May we never confuse material wealth, toys and gifts as replacements for the time we cannot give our children. Those are just add ons.
They can never babysit our children.
QUALITY TIME spells love.( and quantity time too. )
Never confuse it however, as spending time with our families and making your presence known by fully criticising each and every move they make. Like the way they eat, the way they talk and the way they BREATHE. Savor the moment. You need not even speak. Stop and smell the roses, watch your children grow.
Let us never be mindful of time, when we are with our family and our children. ” My kid is too noisy ” , ” my kid does not even know I am there ” or ” what is the point?” are but excuses.
It is all of those points that make those moments special. They may never come again. Time spent with the family and children is time well bestowed. Think of the times you spent with your kids, juxtaposed with the times spent with people, things and places that do not even contribute to your person -then you will realize you lost a family.
And when the time and the need come, just when you thought you had a family within your midst, THEY MAY NOT BE THERE ANYMORE.
Of course you will find time -just like you find time with the other unnecessary things in your life.
Never sacrifice family and children, in exchange for fleeting things.
We should always invest time and effort to be with our family for they, like everyone else someday, will also be too busy doing other things.
They might not have the need for us anymore.They too, might spend time with their friends and with their gadgets.
Families should not be seen merely as an obligation but as a gift.
Find quality time with our families -no interruptions.
And then you build beautiful memories with them, while having the time of your life.
